Girls On Film

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This week some new legislation came into practice in Britain, effectively banning high street stores from selling padded bras and sexually suggestive clothing for children. What should have been common sense has had to be regulated, partly because stores are selling these things but most disturbingly because parents are buying them for their kids. What kind of parent would buy sexually suggestive clothing for their children?

Meet seven year old Poppy Burge.

She’s celebrating her birthday at the moment but you can get used to her pulling that face as it’s the one she’ll be pulling for a living if her mother gets her way. You see, Poppy’s mother wants her to be a glamour model with the aspiration of baring her tits in lads mags like Zoo and Nuts and other monosyllabic productions aimed at serial tissue buyers.

Some people think it’s controversial and I get angry when strangers say I’m a bad mother because I don’t think there’s any harm in giving her this gift. Poppy is a normal kid who is good at sports and loves playing outside. Girls don’t want Snow White and Cinderella any more. They want to be WAGs and famous like Cheryl Cole and Lady Gaga. I’m just supporting her and making her dreams come true.

Poppy’s mother, Sarah, bought the girl £12,000 of gifts for her birthday. Amongst presents such as holidays and computers was a much more controversial item – a voucher for £6,000 of cosmetic surgery, specifically set aside for a boob job. That’s right folks and folkettes, despite her daughter not having grown enough to have anything there yet the woman has already decided that her daughter wont be big enough for the magazine glamour model career that Sarah admits to wanting for Poppy and has spent that much money to help her have a life-altering surgery to make her breasts bigger.

Sarah was in the headlines last year for giving her then six year old daughter poledancing lessons for her birthday and admitting that she wants Poppy to take over her home-run swinging club when she gets older. The 50 year old has had more than £500,000 of surgery herself and tells people that she will encourage it in her children, as she’d be a hypocrite otherwise. This poor woman has covered up her own incredibly devastating image problems (no-one has that much surgery without them) under the explanation that she got the surgery because it makes her look good. She boasts about her body, not once realising that the problems she has are much deeper rooted than any surgery can reach. As she parades around the place convincing herself that everyone needs surgery to look good so that she doesn’t feel ugly, she has drilled that same attitude into her children. As a mother, her job is to prepare her children for the world and let teach them to be happy with the people they are to the degree that they wont have the same problems she obviously has. Instead she’s taken the opposite route and convinced all four of her children that they need surgery, three of which have had botox injections since before they were 16.

Most disturbing is the shield that Sarah has put up around herself to protect herself from the views of others. So precarious is her world view that any serious sign that she is wrong in any way has to be hidden else she will likely have a complete breakdown. As such she has built a wall of flawed logic and bizarre reason to protect her from being in the wrong.

Anyone who attacks my parenting skills are hypocrites. If they are men, it will be because they are secretly sneaking off to lap-dancing clubs behind their wives’ backs, and women will only get annoyed because they are jealous of my life and my great relationship with my daughter.

I’d be willing to bet that the women who read this article wont be jealous of her at all and will in fact be horrified at the way she is stripping her daughters of all their self-worth and teaching them that their value can only be measured by what is on the outside. As a man writing this article I challenge Sarah to say that I sneak off behind my fiance’s back to go to strip clubs as I know damn well I’d win the resulting court case. I understand that her self-worth has become so precariously balanced that she needs these “logical assumptions” to function and stop her from being in the wrong, but when a child is at stake I couldn’t give a flying fuck about the mental state of the person abusing them. That’s right – Sarah Burke has abused her children, diminishing their sense of self-worth and sexualising them in ways that children should not be exposed to.

My daughters adore me and we have a wonderful relationship. It is my responsibility to know what they are up to and help them when and where I can. Poppy is very mature for her age and acts like a mini adult. She already wears heels, make-up and designer clothes, and, like her mother, has a determined nature. She takes at least an hour to get ready for her lesson and is never without her lip gloss.

Remarkably Sarah isn’t the only one attempting to live what she sees as a better life (and anyone with a mental age of twelve or above sees in more realistic terms as shallow and unfulfilling) through her young children, and I’m repeatedly finding cases such as this to write about. Like Kerry in the linked story, Sarah is raising Poppy to believe that the entirity of her worth comes from her looks and that she will always get what she wants if she can make someone love her enough. I’m sure I don’t need to mention how devastating that will be to the girl the first time she can’t get her own way, and just how far this child will go in the future to ensure that she’s loved enough to get everything she wants. I’m sure even the most naive of my readers can see the future in line for this child and the effect her mother has been having on her. I’m sure everyone but her mother and Poppy herself can see that by now, and there lies the real tragedy – Poppy adores her mother.

I love pole dancing. It’s so much fun and mummy’s so good at it. Dancing on the pole is like being Max nested elements reached, which is my favourite TV show. When I’m grown up, I want to be just like my mummy.

And the cycle continues…


24 thoughts on “Girls On Film

  1. It is too hard to say anything. As you`ve said, a level of her disturbance is so deep, she can`t understand that what she is doing for her daughter is actually her need to do the same for herself and try to stay forever young… :doh:

  2. Never understood why this isn't considered abuse by social services and the child isn't removed from the negative environment. Probably sounds too dramatic but the woman is screwing up her daughters life all the same. And this Sarah is scientific proof that no amount of surgery can make you truely attractive…

  3. I'm A Barbie Girl In The Barbie World Life In Plastic, It's Fantastic You Can Brush My Hair, Undress Me Everywhere Imagination, Life Is Your Creation.And that is about all I have to say to that.

  4. Originally posted by lixxylu:

    Never understood why this isn't considered abuse by social services and the child isn't removed from the negative environment.

    Quite. This is abuse, plain and simple. You'd think with it being so publicized it'd be relatively simple for social services to take the child away from this monster.

  5. Originally posted by gdare:

    As you`ve said, a level of her disturbance is so deep

    It's a harsh situation. She's built her defences over quite a long time and each time she brings others (her hubby and other kids) into her delusions, she's raising their validity in her mind.Originally posted by lixxylu:

    Never understood why this isn't considered abuse by social services

    Originally posted by Spaggyj:

    This is abuse, plain and simple.

    It is abuse but the problem lies in when the harm is done. Because it's not presenting a measurable physical or developmental harm to the child during her childhood but rather creating problems that will arise in later life, nothing can really be done. Sure, it's messing up how she sees the world and ensuring that she'll be miserable as soon as she is exposed to the real world outside of the fantasies her mother lives in, but it's not hurting her until she becomes an adult. The sad thing is that if this girl were protected then the liberties humanity would have to lose to make it happen would not be worth it.Originally posted by Aqualion:

    I'm A Barbie Girl In The Barbie WorldLife In Plastic, It's FantasticYou Can Brush My Hair, Undress Me EverywhereImagination, Life Is Your Creation.

    Sarah is proud that the media regard her as a real life Barbie due to the amount of plastic and the lifestyle she tries to live.
    Originally posted by Pineas2:

    Ah, the classic danish literature…

    Danish literature? :confused:Clint & Dennis, yeppers.

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  7. That's an unsettling expression on the kid's face in the first shot – it belongs on the face of a drunken slapper yelling abuse in the street on a Saturday night, not that of a seven-year-old girl :insane:

  8. "You can licence people to drive … "Some people should never have children. Some people's children should be taken from them untiil their mental problems are addressed to the point that their children aren't suffering for it. Originally posted by Furie:

    The sad thing is that if this girl were protected then the liberties humanity would have to lose to make it happen would not be worth it.

    Generally-speaking, yes. When the powers-that-be decide that they know what's best for an entire people, it's unconscionable, regardless of the motivation of the decision-makers.However, on a case-by-case basis, I'm not so sure. The girl you mention in your other post was ultimately taken away from her mother, who is being now investigated. The same thing should happen here.

  9. That mum is ridiculous! I can't believe she's "raising" her daughter like that! Heels, makeup and designer clothes and an upcoming boob job at 7 years old! I agree with David, that kid should be removed from her mum and raised by some responsible parents instead. Poor kids!

  10. One of the worst parts is how the kid doesn't know anything's wrong. She hasn't been given the opportunity to consider other points of view (like the fact that what her mother is doing to her is abhorrent). She thinks what her mother's doing is normal because she simply hasn't been allowed to see an alternative.

  11. Don't you have to be 18 to get a boob job? So not only does she get a horrible gift, she has to wait for another 11 years before she can use it…That "mother" (and I use the word in the widest sense) seems to be beyond redemption. Also, those £500,000 worth of surgery still can't hide the fact that she looks like a man.And speaking of men – does the story mention a father?

  12. Originally posted by rose-marie:

    £500,000 worth of surgery still can't hide the fact that she looks like a man.

    Most of the time, the more money they spend the worse they look…Also, what is that bra she's standing next to? Will that be getting dusty in a draw for 11 years too?

  13. Of course there is no responsible Ken around or things like this would never happen. Fathers, on the other hand, sometimes can be opverprotective in ways that border assault. It seems that these two little girls are having a really good time playing with the doll house all by themselves.Disturbing is the word that comes to mind.

  14. There's a father in the picture. He runs the swingers club with Sarah and backs up everything she says. While not much info on him is given I'd theorise he's used to 50 year olds acting, looking and dressing older than Sarah does. As a result he's grateful for her and wont stand against her for fear of losing her. That's the most charitable explanation I can come up with for him not stopping this abuse anyway.

  15. Reminds me of the stories we hear about children in far away countries that are brought up as prostitutes and start working as such as soon as they can, because it seems to be the only way to support a living in those parts. We fight that. But when it takes place in our own circles it seems to be okay.

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