Girls on film (she’s more than a lady), girls on film
Girls on film (two minutes later), girls on film
Girls on film (see you together), girls on film
Girls on film (see you later), girls on film
Girls on film (what ya doing), girls on film
This week some new legislation came into practice in Britain, effectively banning high street stores from selling padded bras and sexually suggestive clothing for children. What should have been common sense has had to be regulated, partly because stores are selling these things but most disturbingly because parents are buying them for their kids. What kind of parent would buy sexually suggestive clothing for their children?
Meet seven year old Poppy Burge.
She’s celebrating her birthday at the moment but you can get used to her pulling that face as it’s the one she’ll be pulling for a living if her mother gets her way. You see, Poppy’s mother wants her to be a glamour model with the aspiration of baring her tits in lads mags like Zoo and Nuts and other monosyllabic productions aimed at serial tissue buyers.
Some people think it’s controversial and I get angry when strangers say I’m a bad mother because I don’t think there’s any harm in giving her this gift. Poppy is a normal kid who is good at sports and loves playing outside. Girls don’t want Snow White and Cinderella any more. They want to be WAGs and famous like Cheryl Cole and Lady Gaga. I’m just supporting her and making her dreams come true.
Poppy’s mother, Sarah, bought the girl £12,000 of gifts for her birthday. Amongst presents such as holidays and computers was a much more controversial item – a voucher for £6,000 of cosmetic surgery, specifically set aside for a boob job. That’s right folks and folkettes, despite her daughter not having grown enough to have anything there yet the woman has already decided that her daughter wont be big enough for the magazine glamour model career that Sarah admits to wanting for Poppy and has spent that much money to help her have a life-altering surgery to make her breasts bigger.
Sarah was in the headlines last year for giving her then six year old daughter poledancing lessons for her birthday and admitting that she wants Poppy to take over her home-run swinging club when she gets older. The 50 year old has had more than £500,000 of surgery herself and tells people that she will encourage it in her children, as she’d be a hypocrite otherwise. This poor woman has covered up her own incredibly devastating image problems (no-one has that much surgery without them) under the explanation that she got the surgery because it makes her look good. She boasts about her body, not once realising that the problems she has are much deeper rooted than any surgery can reach. As she parades around the place convincing herself that everyone needs surgery to look good so that she doesn’t feel ugly, she has drilled that same attitude into her children. As a mother, her job is to prepare her children for the world and let teach them to be happy with the people they are to the degree that they wont have the same problems she obviously has. Instead she’s taken the opposite route and convinced all four of her children that they need surgery, three of which have had botox injections since before they were 16.
Most disturbing is the shield that Sarah has put up around herself to protect herself from the views of others. So precarious is her world view that any serious sign that she is wrong in any way has to be hidden else she will likely have a complete breakdown. As such she has built a wall of flawed logic and bizarre reason to protect her from being in the wrong.
Anyone who attacks my parenting skills are hypocrites. If they are men, it will be because they are secretly sneaking off to lap-dancing clubs behind their wives’ backs, and women will only get annoyed because they are jealous of my life and my great relationship with my daughter.
I’d be willing to bet that the women who read this article wont be jealous of her at all and will in fact be horrified at the way she is stripping her daughters of all their self-worth and teaching them that their value can only be measured by what is on the outside. As a man writing this article I challenge Sarah to say that I sneak off behind my fiance’s back to go to strip clubs as I know damn well I’d win the resulting court case. I understand that her self-worth has become so precariously balanced that she needs these “logical assumptions” to function and stop her from being in the wrong, but when a child is at stake I couldn’t give a flying fuck about the mental state of the person abusing them. That’s right – Sarah Burke has abused her children, diminishing their sense of self-worth and sexualising them in ways that children should not be exposed to.
My daughters adore me and we have a wonderful relationship. It is my responsibility to know what they are up to and help them when and where I can. Poppy is very mature for her age and acts like a mini adult. She already wears heels, make-up and designer clothes, and, like her mother, has a determined nature. She takes at least an hour to get ready for her lesson and is never without her lip gloss.
Remarkably Sarah isn’t the only one attempting to live what she sees as a better life (and anyone with a mental age of twelve or above sees in more realistic terms as shallow and unfulfilling) through her young children, and I’m repeatedly finding cases such as this to write about. Like Kerry in the linked story, Sarah is raising Poppy to believe that the entirity of her worth comes from her looks and that she will always get what she wants if she can make someone love her enough. I’m sure I don’t need to mention how devastating that will be to the girl the first time she can’t get her own way, and just how far this child will go in the future to ensure that she’s loved enough to get everything she wants. I’m sure even the most naive of my readers can see the future in line for this child and the effect her mother has been having on her. I’m sure everyone but her mother and Poppy herself can see that by now, and there lies the real tragedy – Poppy adores her mother.
I love pole dancing. It’s so much fun and mummy’s so good at it. Dancing on the pole is like being Max nested elements reached, which is my favourite TV show. When I’m grown up, I want to be just like my mummy.
And the cycle continues…